Do any of you guys feel like social media is trying to get you to put your life in fast forward? I feel this happens all too often and it creates a constant fear of not being enough. I’ve had plenty of people in my life feel the constant pressures of Social Media. What is living a “Normal” life anyway?
Society makes you feel like you need to live your life quickly and we get so conditioned to compare ourselves with other people. As a society we are so accustomed to seeing someone’s highlight reel (ie. Instagram) and if our life doesn’t look like a photo-shoot we think we are failures. we’re not. Social Media is so hard on our mental health and yet we crave every bit of it.
I am definitely guilty of this. scrolling for hours on Instagram without realizing it and being so hard on myself because I don’t look like bigger Instagram accounts who go to brunch every weekend, and or wear designer clothing every time they take a photo. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with those account but we certainly shouldn’t judge ourselves for not being like them. ya know? I mean who hasn’t gone on social media and been hard on themselves?
Facebook in particular is something that was so unhealthy for mental being and I think it was because I was comparing myself to people in real life that I knew.
The older I got, the more I felt like I was doing something wrong by not being married or having kids yet, etc. It sounds crazy I know, and honestly it got to the point where I just deleted the app from my phone and haven’t posted anything in 6 months; and I have never been happier. This is in no way against anyone that I know that may be reading this; but I was honestly so tired of feeling like I was falling “behind” and putting these invisible pressures on myself mentally.Honestly, has anyone else felt like this?
Now, Instagram is a whole other monster. In the last three months I decided to focus on my Instagram as a promoter for this blog and Youtube and while I have gained 300+ followers; I have definitely had to learn about balance and when to put the phone away.
Social media should not dictate your worth and if you’re starting to fall into a pattern of feeling as though you are not doing anything right… My biggest suggestion is removing yourself from whatever platform is making you feel like such. I deleted Facebook because of this and it helped me tremendously. It’s okay to take a break and relieve yourself from seeing other peoples lives. Remember that Instagram in particular is literally a highlight real and which is why my tagline is: “It may look like I have my shit together but I promise I don’t “. More often than not, I am literally in leggings and no makeup on with hair that hasn’t been washed in three days lol. I also try to be as transparent as I can to show that I am not a happy giggly person all the time.
Social Media can make you feel as though you are living your life in slow motion but in the end, not matter your age, etc. It DOES NOT matter what others think, your happiness is more important. Like I said personally, Facebook was my personal trigger and in the end the people who were actually a part of my life already knew what was going on in my life versus me posting about it on my Facebook for everyone and their mother to see.
Personally I’m just not mentally strong enough to have Facebook and if you find that Instagram, twitter or whatever else is bothering you and hurting you mentally, then I’d take a hiatus from said websites. You don’t have to follow everyone from your high school, or even your family if they make you feel a certain way. If you’ve been feeling down about social media and are starting to feel like certain Instagram account make you feel inferior than delete them; it is as easy as that.
Remember that Social media should be a way to connect with others from all over, so don’t lose sight of that. Look for genuine relationships and people who are down to support you. Once you find friendships that are supportive it is easier to get through the social media jungle. Trust your gut when it comes to social media, and only follow social media accounts that inspire you and make you happy to see.